We continue our celebration of Pride Month by talking with some of the speakers who volunteer with SpeakOUT Boston. They share their stories with a variety of audiences to foster a better understanding of the LGBTQ+ community, so we thought we’d ask them some questions of our own.
What does Pride mean to you?
My very first Pride celebration was in 2016. I had just come out (at almost 60 years old) and seeing thousands of others celebrating and living their truth was simply the most amazing feeling I had ever known. I was fortunate enough to march in three more Boston Pride Parades plus two in Portland, Maine. Seeing the streets filled with allies gave me hope that things are (even though slowly) getting better, but with a long way to go.
Which writers (including novelists, playwrights, critics, journalists, poets)—working today do you admire most?
I have a few authors or reads that stand out to me. Amy Hoffman is a local author who lives in my neighborhood of Jamaica Plain. She features queer women and her stories make you feel you know these women. Her latest novel, Dot & Ralfie, features partners facing the fears of aging. I also loved Sarah McBride’s Tomorrow Will Be Different, her memoir. Though vastly different from my own story in areas like aging, it made me recall so many of my own feelings of growing up, coming out, and transitioning.
When and why did you decide to join SpeakOUT?
I joined SpeakOUT in 2017, encouraged by a friend. I was afraid (ok, terrified) of public speaking but needed to do it. Getting up to share honestly about who I was, and to hopefully answer questions to help others to understand who we are. Becoming a trainer and helping others to do the same is incredibly rewarding.
What has been your most positive experience working with SpeakOUT?
I often run into people who have attended an engagement where we spoke. They will share how much one of our engagements helped open their eyes about not just LGBTQIA people, but other marginalized communities.
What’s one thing from your talks that you wish was more widely known?
People who hear us speak and see us answer difficult questions often become great allies, but they also pay it forward and help others learn as well. My biggest surprise was learning so much more about myself.
Gabrielle “Gabi” Morgan (she/her) is a transgender woman who came out later in life and a Boston native from the Jamaica Plain neighborhood, where she now once again resides. Gabi hid her true gender identity and was totally closeted until finally revealing her authentic self in 2016, at almost 60 years old. She immediately became active in the transgender community, volunteering with SpeakOUT, among others. She recently joined The Fenway Institute’s LGBTQIA+ Aging Project as a transgender engagement specialist, where she continues her personal journey while working to improve conditions for older transgender and gender diverse persons.
What does Pride mean to you?
Pride to me is about recognizing, developing, and celebrating my own identity as well as celebrating other people’s identities. It’s important to recognize the whole person, not just their sexual and gender identities.
Which writers (including novelists, playwrights, critics, journalists, poets)—working today do you admire most?
I appreciate the work of Tarell Alvin McCraney, whose work in the arts brings modern characters to life in his plays and films. He was a co-writer of the film Moonlight, among other works.
When and why did you decide to join SpeakOUT?
I joined SpeakOUT in 2012 when I attended a SpeakOUT speaker training workshop. I was motivated to participate in the training because I was in pursuit of further developing my speaking skills when I saw an intersectional opportunity between my public speaking skills and nurturing my sexual identity.
What has been your most positive experience working with SpeakOUT?
My most positive experience working with SpeakOUT is being a trainer in our speaker trainings. After each and every opportunity I have to attend a SpeakOUT training, I experience positivity from the day.
What’s one thing from your talks that you wish was more widely known?
Recognizing and protecting everyone’s identities. It’s important to know that some of us have suffered and continue to suffer because of the ignorance and abuse of those who refuse to recognize and protect certain identities.
Michael Bookman (he/him) is a transplant from South Carolina who has settled into Boston over the years. He has been involved with SpeakOUT for ten years and is a past board president and long-time training team member. He is currently a member of the SpeakOUT in Color affinity group for speakers of color in the organization.
What does Pride mean to you?
Show up as you are, and just be Proud.
Which writers (including novelists, playwrights, critics, journalists, poets)—working today do you admire most?
I greatly admire the work of Elizabeth Gilbert and Glennon Doyle, who describe their own evolution as women-loving women in their own stories, irrespective of any label. I have come to believe that if we’re paying attention and listening to that still small voice inside ourselves that we will shift and change and grow again and again and again throughout our lifetimes. Perhaps we are more a kaleidoscope than a rainbow, letting the light shine through all the mosaic moments of our lives. To this day I feel more comfortable describing myself as the “+” in LGBTQ+, a fluid femme who continues to ebb and flow in my own personal journey.
When and why did you decide to join SpeakOUT?
I joined SpeakOUT in 2017 to help illustrate that while there are plenty of people that might look incredibly different from you or me in our beautiful rainbow community, there are also plenty that might look just like you and me but actually walk a very different path altogether. And I believe it is equally important that we accept and embrace our similarities as we do our differences.
What has been your most positive experience working with SpeakOUT?
I have always loved speaking at high schools with SpeakOUT. One incredibly memorable experience was when a female student approached me and told me that she was gay and was terrified to go home for break, as her parents did not accept her (she was staying with another family close to the school). By sharing my story, I gave this student a safe place to share hers, and we created a plan of self-care for her to follow through her most challenging times. Being able to help LGBTQ+ youth in this way is a true honor.
What’s one thing from your talks that you wish was more widely known?
As a feminine-presenting woman, the assumptions about me are endless. I must be straight, the ring on my finger must have been given to me by my husband, I must have carried our children. I “pass” so if I wanted to I could let the opportunity to educate pass on by just the same, but, for me, that has always felt like a disservice to the LGBTQ+ community. Because the truth is, while I might look like “most girls,” I am not straight. I am married to my dream wife, and together we have adopted and are raising our children as part of our blended family. I believe it’s critical that we challenge the views of what constitutes family norms and what configurations are acceptable and celebrated.
Dr. Jennelle Kariotis-Rice (she/her) is a psychologist by training and a relationship advisor and justice of the peace to the LGBTQ+ community by trade, as well as a part-time Psychology Professor at Bridgewater State University. Jennelle specializes in working with women who were previously in relationships with men and are now (or would like to be) in relationships with women and hosts a podcast and virtual community known as the Big Change of Heart. She lives in Pembroke with her wife and four children.
What does Pride mean to you?
Pride Month and many Pride events are opportunities for celebration, for finding and supporting all members of the LGBTQIA+ community, for honoring history and protecting the future, and for educating and including all types of people while keeping the focus on queer people and our lives. Pride is about survival, humor, creativity, strength, sadness, sexual and relational human rights, and speaking and being heard.
Which writers (including novelists, playwrights, critics, journalists, poets)—working today do you admire most?
Alison Bechdel, Charles M. Blow, John Paul Brammer, Roxane Gay, Kieron Gillen, Edgar Gomez, Christopher Gonzalez, Tony Kushner, Alice Oseman, and Brandon Taylor.
When and why did you decide to join SpeakOUT?
Though I had been out as a bisexual/queer man to a small number of people since the mid-1990s, I didn’t come out to the rest of my family, nor widely and publicly, until May and June of 2014, when I marched in (and attended!) my first Boston Pride event. Having learned about SpeakOUT through Ellyn Ruthstrom and the Bisexual Resource Center, I attended my first board meeting in July that year and quickly became both a volunteer speaker and board member. I joined because I wanted to “make up for lost time” of having been mostly silent, realizing what a positive difference more stories from out bisexual men and other queer people would have made in my earlier life.
What has been your most positive experience working with SpeakOUT?
The reciprocal flow of strength and compassion between myself and audience members. SpeakOUT helped me find and take pride in my story, my voice, my history and identity—and I have heard from so many of our listeners that our stories have done so for them. It’s an amazingly energizing and uplifting dynamic.
What’s one thing from your talks that you wish was more widely known?
I do think we all have a lot of work to do on increasing bisexual and pansexual visibility, particularly for bi and pan men, who continue to face misunderstanding and discrimination both outside of and even within the LGBTQIA+ community.
George Grattan (he/him) has worked as a teacher, writer, editor, and marketing and communications expert in a wide range of settings, focusing on the higher education and sustainability sectors. He joined the board of SpeakOUT in 2014, and served as board chair for three years. A proud bisexual/queer man, he lives with his wife, Mary, in Gloucester, MA, where he advises the nonprofit Seaside Sustainability—and tries to swim at least nine months of the year.